Joint parent-school education, sometimes a lure? 7 years of suffering for the Puech family, cataloged by “intrusive parents”, because they are trying to enforce the rights of Amaury, dys and deaf. The expected collaboration failed.
Co-education is a fashionable concept, defined as ” priority national education. The idea is strengthen trust and dialogue between school and families », As well as with paramedics in case of disability. In other words, the permit ” increased parental participation in educational activities »Within the facilities themselves. The goal? Work in symbiosis in the best interests of the child. There is even an official circular on this subject (No. 2013-142) from 2013. On paper, it makes sense, but in reality?
Historically, parents stayed out of school. For them, educating children; teachers their instructions. Since then, the ice has broken (very) slowly … But there is still reluctance. The Puech family paid for it. Lydia and Arnaud Puech are the parents of 11-year-old Amaury with a disability after premature birth. According to this mother, the school is becoming more and more a closed place, where common education is often not invited and where inclusion is sometimes omitted “.
Co-education is not in the CoR
Difficulties have arisen since the beginning of kindergarten because Amaury does not talk due to her moderate deafness and dysphasia disorders, including dysphasia, even though she has no mental disabilities. The family is in the process of evaluation and tries to communicate in a completely transparent way between health professionals and teachers in the interests of their child. But at school they try to know what’s going on. “ Exchanges were almost impossible and when they happened, we answered vaguely.remember Lydia and Arnaud. We were perceived as intrusive parents. “No further improvement in the primary … On the one hand, healthcare professionals offer spaces and tools, on the other hand, we do not like to apply them. Amaury is refused to use an abacus and digital ruler when he needs to visualize and manipulate to understand. Then you have to play with another ” dodge », With stick system. “ We immediately thought that the long-awaited joint education would not be. “, explains Lydia, who ensures that other parents are in a similar situation throughout France and are even refused to use computer tools (tablet or computer) despite the MDPH! warning. Healthcare professionals’ investments are also affected. ” What is the point of maintaining rehabilitation sessions with an occupational therapist, psychomotor, speech therapist if the work cannot be invested within an hour? “she asks.
A short break
CM1 offers a year of relaxation thanks to a listening teacher who offers adapted pedagogy and takes into account the expertise of medical and social workers. Short break … In the second trimester of CM2, the family decides to call Sapad (Home Education Assistance) two days a week with the support of paramedics who follow Amaury; This facility, set up by National Education in each department, is designed for sick, injured or immobilized children to enable them to continue the program. Lydia calls herself tired of constantly repeating the same things and finding it difficult to apply accommodation “Especially because it was Amaury who” must pay the consequences and adapt! »« Placing a hearing-impaired child with hearing aids in the back of the class, refusing written comprehension to compensate for oral comprehension, not sharing hours in writing via a USB key provided by us: these are examples of unresponsive measures that had a direct impact on our son who was exhausted in the first trimesters because he had to work harder to get there “, continues.
Anger erupts when parents learn of a briefing written by an inspector who criticizes Lydia’s behavior and takes her accountable for any conflicts. The family then decides to condemn these ” serious convictions ministries concerned. Administrative proceedings are pending.
Exhausted from cataloging
For seven years Lydia and Arnaud fought, exhausted by being cataloged “just because they” get to know your child “because they want” to support him in education to become a single adult “.” I often hear from parents about inappropriate and aggressive behavior, but there is also the oppositeadds Lydia. Word violence exists in both senses. Some teachers exert pressure, they may have slanderous remarks. We are not talking about these mothers often referred to as hysterical. Rarely do we talk about these families climbing on cranes to hope they win their case. But these are facts that cannot be hidden. »
Right written in black on white
However, it seems that the national education system left nothing to chance … The rights of parents of pupils to ensure their educational role are recognized through: the right to information on the monitoring of their children’s school attendance and behavior, the right of assembly exercised in collective meetings or individuals, the right to participate. their representatives, members or non-members of the association, elected or appointed to the bodies of schools and school facilities “, It says on his website. The Act on the Re-establishment of the School of the Republic of 2013 even provides for the creation, ” space in all educational establishments (classroom or reserved room) for parental use Catherine Hurtig-Delattre, author of the book Co-education at school is possiblejudges at the same time that It’s complicated “because “It is primarily a relationship system and every relationship system is difficult According to her, experts implement specific means and mechanisms “, with some” game rules “so” it could work “.
Soon a specialized association
It is out of the question for Lydia to throw all the teachers into one bag: ” I know that many people try to listen and suffer from a lack of resources, but they have the sincerity to talk about it with their families and find solutions with the support of health professionals. “. In an effort to change the situation and” rescue dialogue In the coming months, with the support of health professionals and women and men of the law, the couple plan to form an association to defend the rights of children with special needs, with all disabilities combined. He also intends to condemn this ” excessive phobia of motherhood in the field of disability, which in some cases leads to disturbing information or derogatory messages “Notes that” Hiring a lawyer to defend your rights is becoming a matter of course in a so-called inclusive society. It is unfortunate that this will happen, but sometimes it is the only solution to move forward. “.
Today, the results are bitter … Some measures have not been followed, Amaury is out of school, since May 9, 2022 he is forced to attend courses through Cned (National Center for Distance Education). A sad confession of failure “, His parents lament, who, despite everything, put new hopes into the next school year at the university …
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